Forgiveness and mindfulness

A blog by Joyce Cordus

Mindfulness is best known in the Netherlands as a powerful method for stress reduction and personal development. Themes such as awareness, self-compassion and managing emotions are central here. But what about forgiveness? Although, I believe, this topic is closely related to mindfulness and can promote profound healing, it still receives little attention in many mindfulness training programs. In this blog, I will explore why I think forgiveness is a valuable topic and why mindfulness trainers should consider including it in their programs.

Forgiveness plays a crucial role in releasing negative emotions such as resentment and anger. As such, it can contribute to inner peace and balance – the same goals that mindfulness pursues. It can also be a powerful way to take responsibility and create space for healing.

Just as mindfulness teaches us to be present with our thoughts and feelings without judgment, forgiveness can help us let go of resentment and pain. But it is not easy. Forgiveness is often a lengthy process that touches on deep emotional layers, such as pain and trauma, and requires courage and reflection. Yet, like mindfulness, it offers the possibility of achieving inner peace. I think there are, several reasons why forgiveness has not (yet) received the attention it deserves in mindfulness programs. Many trainings focus primarily on individual experience and stress reduction, which means that relational issues such as forgiveness are less likely to be addressed. Forgiveness requires letting go of resentment toward others. This is a complex and sometimes confrontational process.

In addition, the pragmatic approach to mindfulness is influential in the Netherlands. Mindfulness training here is often practical in nature, focusing on immediate benefits such as stress reduction and/or improved concentration. Forgiveness touches on more emotional and relational processes. Partly because of this, it is often less measurable and we tend to experience it as less immediate. In countries such as the United States, where mindfulness is more often associated with self-development and spiritual growth, there is more room for prosocial issues such as forgiveness.
So while forgiveness is not currently a focus, there is a growing focus on compassion within mindfulness. Programs such as Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) or Mindfulness-Based Compassionate Living (MBCL) training integrate forgiveness more explicitly into their approach, as it helps develop inner peace and harmony in relationships. For mindfulness trainers, this is an opportunity to deepen their programs and guide participants in a process of forgiveness and healing, not only for themselves, but also in their relationships with others.
In short, forgiveness is perfectly aligned with the principles of mindfulness and can contribute to deep inner peace. It takes courage to integrate it into existing programs, but it also offers trainers the opportunity to help participants grow on a deeper, emotional level.

Frits Koster and I want to push for this. First, through the Mindfulness-Based Training in Forgiveness (MBTF) that we already offer. In addition, we are also currently developing a train-the-trainer course that we plan to offer in 2025. Among other things, the training will help mindfulness trainers integrate forgiveness into existing mindfulness-based programs.

Joyce Cordus, October 25, 2024
Drawing: Willemien van Gurp – from ‘De vrouw en de raaf’